I found a perfect guy but I'm not ready!

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Hi, I want to confess... rather i want to know various opinions as i am confused. I am pursuing CA and i am 20. I found a guy and he is everything i want.. according to my age people think i am really mature due to my thoughts or my requirements in my life (both personal and professional).

And this guy is 26. He also thinks that i fulfil his every requirement.
I have met him once... and we realized that we have lots of things in common... the main thing is that i like him a lot... it's not love... love doesnt happen suddenly... It takes time... but I want to get involved with him... he is a CA too.

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He is having a great job... but the problem is he says that after 2 yrs he would want to settle down and get married and after 2 yrs i would not be in any state to settle down... so he thinks it's not right for us to get involved bcoz he can make his parents wait for only a certain period of time...

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GSW 2 years ago

Whoaaaa... Your points are : 1: You are only 20 2: you had met him Once as you said or Sometimes 3: You had started comparing him with other guys (Felt bad for those guys who doesn't know about it that they are on a Wedding Interview ) (Are you on Mission of finding a Groom)? You know what to be done, focus on your career what your parents are expecting, be in touch with this guy like friends, don't commit anything .. Who knows you may know some of his traits you don't like in future, or even it can happen that you you both get married in future.. Who knows. Give some time to yourself... He is in a Hush-hush mode... You are not...

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gaurav 2 years ago

if he really loves you, he will only marry you. Both of you will have to adjust. You can continue your studies after marriage too. As he is already 26 & after two years 28, I will not suggest to delay ur marriage. that will be the perfect age for both of you.

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Ratika 2 years ago

Yarr..! One thing keep in mind always....That for today's girl ...Nothing is important than career..!! Sometimes these kinds of relationship can make Ur career spoil all over.!! Nd what is the guarantee that he will always respect u..Love u...U should be independent first..! Nd trst me there are many guys in India...Who r gud enough ...Think if u will become a CA then how many guys will approach u..!! In my view u should lose contact wid him totally...I know it will quite tough for u...But still u should recognise the value of this time...It will never come back again..!! Gud luck

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gaurav 2 years ago

Don't agree!! A right guy will never marry you just because ur CA or IAS. Love, respect, honesty and commitment towards you and family makes a good marriage. Secondly, the mentality of independence is the biggest reason these days for divorce, and divorce rate is increasing.

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sayani 2 years ago

well hello, you know what, he is actually right. he is 26. and 2 years later his parents will obviously ask him to get married and in India more like pressure him to settle down. and you are only 20. you do have a lot to see. and it's also true that the description you gave are hard to find these days. with all this said there is 2 things you can do.. 1. go for a casual relationship and don't think about future much. in this way you will also be able to focus on your career and see where the relationship takes you both. but also keep in mind that there is a huge chance that you will not be together later on. 2. you can be in a serious relationship with him but also you have to be mentally prepared for marriage. and if you think you are ready to sacrifice a part of your career or ready to become a wife then go ahead. you know what people say.. "you can't have the cake and eat it too" you have to sacrifice something in order to achieve something greater. now you have think what's your priority and act accordingly. oh and also you can just be friends with him or totally loose contact.

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Charriii 2 years ago

Don't give up so easily hold on to it if this is what makes you happy....Try to make him realise your importance with time....Once he starts loving you....You'll both find a way...To get into it....!!!!

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Ramesh Chellapan 2 years ago

You can be clear and bold that you are well ready for marriage. Your career is in ur hands... After two years., you can definitely marry him... Hope ur parents agree your choice of partner...

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just a guy 2 years ago

ur surely in a tough spot there. but sometimes u gotta sacrifice for love. that's what it is. if either of u can ? theres ur answer. he would pressured as hell as he has a secure job..u on the other hand will grow more mature. u could even continue career after marriage.many ppl do. but will u? u need to introspect. Imagine what a tough spot he would be in after 3yrs. And who knows what may happen..what if u guys breakup up where would it leave him then, well u would be still young. all I am saying is hes kinda right but not 100 and theres a strong possibility that u could make it work. well our parents did, they got married earlier. hope it helped

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