My wife's sexual past is bothering me.

Since 2012, I'm in love with a friend of mine. She had a boyfriend in college. But I was ok with that. I didn't confess my love to her as I was struggling with my career that time. She also loved me that time (I later came to know that from a mutual friend). I was busy with my studies and didn't contacted her frequently.

I proposed her in 2015 and she accepted. She told me that a friend of her has asked her for marriage but he couldn't convince his parents so it didn't work out.
Later in June 2016, I found some disturbing pics of them in her phone. I was shattered because she hid each and every thing about it from me. She had shared bed with him multiple times but didn't had sex. I asked her if this was all she had. She said yes. I forgave her.

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We got married a few months back and now I found some videos and Sk**e chats that proves she was lying. I asked her about it and she said she hid it because she didn't want to lose me.
Now I have a sexual image that is disturbing every now and then. I can't trust her fully. Though she loves me a lot and is faithful to me now but I can't let go of all this from my mind and it's making my life a hell.

I'm so disturbed that I can't focus on anything. I don't know how to tackle with all this.

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JonamR 9 months ago

It's simple to do away with your bothering. Hire an escort, get physical with her informing your wife. After this your life will be easy.


pop 1 year ago

hard to love someone you know you can't trust...makes you wonder what else she's lied about.


pritish 1 year ago

U start enjoying too tit for tat


Punit 1 year ago

Thinking about past will only ruin your relationship. Tell your wife that you love her and nothing of past can break your relationship. The moment she understand you love her and never leave. And will always stand by her side. She won't hide things. It takes lives to build relationship and moment to break.


Raj 1 year ago

Do whatever u want to


Yoyo 1 year ago

Hard to digest it but you have present if she is loyal and loves u...u should not mind about her past...past is past everyone has their should stop asking her about anything that could ruin your relationship...its hard to trust completely..u sholud give her a chance...if she again do something like this...kick her ass out of house


Raj 1 year ago

But her past is her business. Be a man and respect her.


hakk 1 year ago

Should take a break from her until you make peace with her past..if both of you have forgiven each other later then you will have no issues and will lead healthy relationship... Or else move on


prince 1 year ago

I can understand what you are feeling. It mainly happens when you have been too perfect in your past and expect your girl to be same. All here will be giving u piece of words. But, what I say is, Whenever u think abt her past, first accept it. Start to think about beautiful moments u had with her. Both of u sit together and u explain ur situation. A true girl will support u rather than defending herself. If she is supportive to u, like trying to help u out of that, then, u r very lucky to get her.

reply 1 year ago

In the past, you weren't a matter of subject. But now you are. If presently she's having sex with other guys that would be cheating. But her past is her business. Be a man and respect her.


Dj 1 year ago

Its not abt respecting her past choices, its about getting to know something more everytime when she says there is nothing more to tell. Its a feeling like 'breach of trust'.


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